When it came to hashing out ideas or seeking words of wisdom I found myself up against the wall. Mostly due to being a solopreneur. I knew hands down I needed a second, third or even a fourth set of eyes looking at my latest and greatest idea and I needed cut throat honest to goodness opinions. The “everything looks and sounds fantastic” opinion my mom was giving me wasn’t cutting it, though. Of course, she thinks anything I do is fantastic……she’s my mom.
What I desperately needed was a total stranger…..one that didn’t know how fantastic I am, yet…to sit down with me preferably with a steamy cup of coffee and give it to me straight up. No sugar coated responses. Sorry, mom. Raw honesty was what I needed to make my business move forward.
Are these fabulous ideas I’m proud of what my business needs….at this time or even at all? Do I have my shit together or do I just think I have it together? Does what I’m doing make sense or is it all over the place? I needed answers and I knew I wouldn’t get this type of opinion from dear ole mom.
I had joined a couple of Facebook business groups. Then I went silent. I didn’t interact. I didn’t put one damn thing out there for someone to give me these opinions I thought I wanted/needed.
I sat idle. I watched from the sidelines. I read what others posted. While other biz babes just like me were clearly receiving actionable responses, advice, encouragement, collaborations and genuine love from others I continued to stay in the dark and watch.
What I didn’t understand was how could these women share so much of their business and their techniques with strangers. Weren’t they concerned someone may “steal” their idea? Whoa! I was not too sure about all of this sharing and revealing.
But I was STUCK!!
I needed these biz babes like I needed air in my lungs. I needed to get over it. I would lie if I said it was easy. It was NOT.
Which group should I reach out to? How should I approach someone?
I debated this for weeks before I said to myself “girl, if you want answers you must ask, if you want a successful business…..you must ask, if you don’t grow any balls and do something you may as well QUIT.”
I didn’t want to QUIT!
I got serious.
Not only did I find a mastermind group to join I also reached out to not 1 but 2 amazing ladies to do collaborations with. To my surprise, they said yes.
When I started my search for my mastermind BFF’s I wanted to make sure these ladies had similar interest as I do. Not being in the same business but in the same mindset. I wanted to be surrounded by ladies who spoke the same snarky fun way I do and ladies who have a genuine care about others.
When I found a mastermind group that fit my style I joined. But I still was hesitant about sharing so I was careful not to reveal too much about my biz at the first meet up and probably the second one too. But I quickly grew comfortable and trusted the ladies within the mastermind.
How did this coffee chugging group of ladies help me and my biz? I can’t even recall all of the ways they have helped me. But I can tell you is while I sat there every 3rd Tuesday night with my cup of coffee while hashing out my biz issues and helping other with their biz issues I never felt so connected to a group of individuals as I did with these ladies.
Hands down it was the best decision I made for my biz and for myself. I now have a group of close friends I can count on at any given moment to reach out to when I feel up against the wall.
Joining the mastermind group helped my business come together quicker and helped me to achieve a recognizable brand. I’m so happy I didn’t stay on the sidelines watching everyone else do amazing things.
Giving advice and encouragement to others is so much more rewarding than I thought it could ever be. Knowing you are a part of a group of ladies and they’ve all been part of helping the other become successful is absolutely the best feeling ever.
I now do in person and virtual mastermind meetups. I look forward to getting together and seeing what each other has accomplished and in reality being part of a group that knows your goals helps keep you accountable. After hashing out #allthethings I leave so energized I can hardly wait to get back in the studio to do some work.
Don’t settle in a group that doesn’t fit your style. There is a group for you. When you feel a connection with others you will look forward to the meet ups and gain friendships and endless amounts of actionable advice you’ll appreciate.
I would look for a group that is 10 people or less. The mastermind group I’m in we have two hours and each person is given about 10 minutes or so to hash out their ideas, struggles, or to brag about wins. Two hours may seem like a long time but every single minute is so full of actionable advice that you’re busy listening, taking notes, and sharing advice that the time goes by very quickly.
Prepare your questions ahead of time and be as specific as you can about what you are needing to learn/figure out. Don’t hesitate to share advice……your experiences may be the answer someone else is needing.
Mastermind groups are a safe place to spill all the beans. You’ll feel like you have a full-time staff working with you. Check out Rising Tide Society, Covelle, or The Little Black Desk Society to see if one of these groups is a good snug fit for you and your personality.
Tisa is the owner and designer of The Onyx Feather where she designs jewelry from natural stones, leather, and mixed metals. Her designs are rooted in nature and stones that make an impact on our lives and bodies.
Her mission statement is to empower others to be brave and live life to its fullest. When she’s not holed up in her studio you can find her chillin with a good book and sippin on some fancy coffee or a glass of red.
You can find her designs at www.theonyxfeather.com.